Basic questions every woman must ask before getting too deep
Before you get too deep into the relationship, it’s only pertinent that you ask your man these essential questions
- Ask him what his short- term goals are
- Ask what his long-term goals are
- Ask what his views on relationships are
- What he thinks about you
- How he feels about you
They are essential questions, the answers will tell you everything you need to know about this guy in your life or the guy you hope to have in your life. Asking these questions will help you determine whether you should stick around to see where your relationship goes, or if you should run away very fast in the opposite direction. There is no need delaying asking these questions, ask them right away, as soon as you get attracted to a man you’ve met. If he is not willing to answer your questions, I mean if he is turned off by them, well you know up-front he’s not the guy for you. You’ve got rights to the information so don’t be afraid to bring up your questions.
Now let’s analyse the questions listed above:
- WHAT ARE HIS SHORT-TERM GOALS
For every woman getting into a relationship with a man, she should know what his plans are and how they fit into the key elements that makes up a man, which are (1) who he is (2) what he does (3) how much he makes.
These three things, are extremely important to any mature, grown man, and you have every right to know what he is doing right now, and what he is planning over the next two to five years to come, to be the real grown man he wants be.
His answers will help you determine whether you want to be part of that plan or not. You will know to throw up
your much- needed red flay if he doesn’t have a plan at all.
If he’s got good plans, well great. Act like you’re super- interested and ask follow-up questions- be the inquisitive,
Enthusiastic detective that you are. As men like talking about themselves, the more inquisitive and interested you are the more information he will give you. So go ahead and ask all the questions you can.
- WHAT ARE HIS LONG-TERM GOALS
Believe it or not: a man who really has a vision for where he wants to see himself in eight to ten years has looked into the future and seriously considered what it will take for him to get there. It means he has foresight, and he’s plotting out the steps to his future. If he says something silly like “I’m just trying to make it day by day,” you better run as fast as you can.
If his long-term plan is the same as his short-term plan, I’ll advice you get out of the relationship immediately. Because his answers tells you that he hasn’t thought his life through, or he doesn’t see you in it and so he has no reason to divulge the details to you. All he’s got for you is game. Well if he doesn’t have a plan, I see no reason why you should want him stick around.
My opinion is, the man you should consider spending a little time on is the one who has a plan, a well- thought-out plan that you can see yourself in. Believe me when I tell you, a man always has a plan.
- WHAT ARE HIS VIEWS ON RELATIONSHIPS
Now this is a multiple-part question that sizes up how a man feels about a complete range of relationships, from the how he feels about his parents and siblings to his connection with God. Each answer will reveal a lot more about him, whether he is serious about commitment, the kind of household in which he was raised, what kind of husband and father he might be, whether he knows the Lord, all of that. And the only way you’ll find out the answers to this questions is to ask.
Ask these questions before you kiss this man, maybe even before you agree to go on a date with him, for sure this is a great phone conversation.
Don’t be nervous or shy about asking this questions, either, after all what are you supposed to be doing with this man at this early stage if not talking to him? Seize the opportunity and get your answers, if he has a hard time talking about this right here, then something is wrong. I advise you RUN.
- WHAT HE THINKS ABOUT YOU
This one you will have to ask after a few dates, because he’s going toned time to get to know you. I assure you, his answers will be critical because it will reveal to you what his plans for you are. If you’ve been out on a couple of dates and you’ve had a lot of conversation, you know something about him, but what’s more important, is you want to know what he is thinking about you.
And you have the right to know. Oh, trust me, he thought something about you when he first walked up to you, and you need to know what it is. He was attracted to something, he liked your eyes, your hair, your long legs, and your outfit. Beyond the initial attraction, however, men pretty much know if you’re the kind of woman they’re going to sleep with and keep it moving ,or if they are going to stick around and see If they want more. This you will be able to tell by his answers.
Listen to answer closely. I assure you this is how it will go, because every man will answer this question the same way: “I think you’re great, I think you you’d make a great mom, you’re fun, you’re kind, you’re really beautiful, and you turn me on, very smart, hard working he will go on and on saying all the good things he know you want to hear. Still, this isn’t the answer you should be looking for. You want specifics. You want to know to know that he’s really thought about you beyond the surface.
If he thinks you’re a great mom, make him tell you what it is about you that makes you a great mom. The level of his specifics will give you yet another clue into this man’s intentions for your relationship. If he can give you specifics, it means he’s been listening and adding it up, he is determining if he is going to keep you, if he can see himself in a committed relationship with you. And that could mean that you’re at least on the same page.
- HOW HE FEELS ABOUT YOU
Do not confuse “feel” and “think” they are completely different from each other. And if a man cannot tell you how he feels about you after a month of dating, it’s because he doesn’t feel anything for you, he just want something. Ask a man how he feels about you and he’s going to get confused and nervous, he may not give you the answer right away, don’t get upset because he’s got to go into that part of himself that he doesn’t like to go to, and that’s the emotional part. Men do not do emotion well, at all, and expressing it doesn’t come easy.
With emotional questions, you’re asking him to look into his soul, and their DNA isn’t made up for the heartfelt outpouring to just anybody. But this doesn’t mean you should let up. What you’re looking for in his answer is something like this: “When I don’t see you, I miss talking to you, I always wonder what you’re doing and whenever you come around, I just feel better, you’re the type of woman I’ve been trying to find.”
In other words, his answer has to make you feel wonderful. He may not be in love with you yet, but he’s crazy about you and he’s probably thinking he wants to explore a long –term commitment with you, because when he starts to profess and put you in a position where he can Provide for and protect you, he’s seeing a future with you in it. And this is exactly where you want to be with this guy.