Parenting advice for better upbringing
- Just let them be
If parents are truly concerned about their children, they must raise their children in such a way that the child will never have any need for the parent. The process of loving should always be a liberating process, not an entangling process. So when the child is born, allow the child to look around, spend time with nature and spend time with himself. Create an atmosphere of love and support and don’t try to impose your morals, ideas, religion or whatever in any way. Just allow him to grow, allow his intelligence to grow and help him look at life on his own terms, as a human being – not identified with the family, or your wealth or whatever else. Just helping him to look at life as a human being is very essential for his wellbeing and the wellbeing of the world. Always, the parent encouraging the child to learn to think for himself, to use his own intelligence to see what is best for him is the best insurance you have so that the child grows up well.
- Be available for your children
1- Notice times when your kids are most likely to talk — for example, at bedtime, before dinner, in the car — and be available.
2 – Start the conversation; it lets your kids know you care about what’s happening in their lives.
3 – Find time each week for a one-on-one activity with each child, and avoid scheduling other activities during that time.
4- Learn about your children’s interests — for example, favorite music and activities — and show interest in them.
5- Initiate conversations by sharing what you have been thinking about rather than beginning a conversation with a question.
- Learn From Your Child
Most adults assume that as soon as a child is born, it is time to become teachers. When a child enters your house, it is not the time to become a teacher, it is time to learn, because if you look at yourself and your child, your child is more joyous, isn’t it? So it is time you learn life from them, not the other way around. The only thing that you can teach your child – which you have to, to some extent – is how to survive. But when it comes to life itself, a child knows more about life experientially, by himself. He is life; he knows it. Even with you, if you take away the influences you have imposed upon your mind, your life energies know how to be. It is only your mind which doesn’t know how to be. An adult is capable of all kinds of sufferings – imagined sufferings. A child has still not gone to that. So it is time to learn, not teach.
- Let your kids know you’re listening
1-When your children are talking about concerns, stop whatever you are doing and listen.
2- Express interest in what they are saying without being intrusive.
3- Listen to their point of view, even if it’s difficult to hear.
4-Let them complete their point before you respond.
5- Repeat what you heard them say to ensure that you understand them correctly.
- Be a Joyful, Peaceful Being
If you want to bring up your child well, the first thing is, you should be happy. But you, by yourself do not know how to be happy. Every day in your house, when tension, anger, fear, anxiety and jealousy are the only things that are being demonstrated to your child, what is going to happen to him? He will obviously learn only these, isn’t it? If you really have the intention of bringing up your child well, you should change yourself to be a loving, joyous and peaceful being. If you are incapable of transforming yourself, where is the question of you bringing up your child?